Thank you all for the information..... I am not surprised ( I WAS hoping though
). I will share this info. with my neurosurgeon when I see him in another 2 months. Just to let you know, I handed him a 2 page letter which had a lot of the information I shared 'in a place to vent' ....
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I actually had an ENT tell me when I went to go see him that... 'if I lost my hearing in my AN ear ... it would be no big deal and I'd adjust.' At the time I didn't know what to say (and of course I still had my hearing) so I thought he had talked to lots of people who had lost their hearing on the AN side and the other ear must have adjusted and it really wasn't much of a problem. HA !!! Well, I know better now and frankly that's not true. In the less than 3 months since I have had my surgery I have had too many people say things like - 'well, at least it isn't cancer' or tell me - ( and this is a direct quote) : " that's why God gave you 2 ears - so you would have a spare" . I now make it perfectly clear what it is like dealing minute by minute with the changes in my life.
#1 How tired I get trying to understand what people are saying .. in a crowded room or over music, TV, radio etc. because I only hear on one side
#2 The loud and varied tinnitus sounds I hear constantly ... which are worse now because I don't have any outside sounds on that side to compete with the sounds inside that deaf ear area.
#3 The balance issues .... which are better but still a problem.
#4 My facial paralysis ... which is getting somewhat better but still causes great difficulty -- I can't blink... washing my hair or face is a PAIN because I don't want to get soap in my eye, I can't rinse my mouth after brushing my teeth without 'leaking' out of the weak side, I hardly smile because it draws attention to my 1/2 way working face. I also shared with him about self esteem and my trip to Hawaii. I felt he should know that even though we have to do something about these tumors (since as they grow we can have more and more problems ) most of our lives are changed and we are not the same as we were before treatment. ... Do you know
anyone who has made it after treatment with NO issues (everthing is great ...can still hear perfectly, balance is fine, no tinitus and no facial paralysis). I don't. I have heard doctors say that 'those people' go on with their lives and don't want to think about this anymore... it's over. I guess there must be a few of the 'lucky ones'... but I think most have things to deal with .... like most of my friends here (and even the 2 AN people I know in the small town where I live).
Sorry, off on a side road,...... anyway,
I let him know it was a thank you letter (because he did a great job) and also included some information about what it was like after surgery to adjust to the issues I had to deal with . I gave him the letter to read later .... of course I didn't include the part where I said that the doctors should experience all our post-op symptoms for 3 months ( I thought that might be taken the wrong way and not go over so well
).
I decided that after I had added to the vent topic about what doctors don't understand about our post-op life I could at least share (in a respectful and informative way ) what it is like with one of these Dr's. I do plan to discuss the information I shared with him when I see him next..... it should be interesting.
Thanks again for the support..... I think I will just continue with my plan to find out more about Trans ear in the near future.
Margaret
P.S. Hey, we could have a very interesting orchestra if only we could all put our tinitus sounds together and everyone could hear them....