Vig59,
There are many point of view out there...age - vs - treatment, radiation - vs - surgery, everything - vs - watch and wait.
At the beginning of this journey confusion is very common. We grew up going to the doctors when something was wrong with us. They told us what to do, and we got better.
Now with AN's things are a bit different. Surgeons normally do not recommend radiation and will fill your head with horror stories...Radio surgeons are just as bad, they'll tell you all of the surgery horror stories leaving the AN patient more confused than when they went in.
Please believe me when I tell you this...knowledge is power. Unless you are suffering severe symptoms right now you DO NOT have to do anything. AN's are slow growing, and this gives us time to understand our enemy and figure out how to kick its butt.
Research...research...research...is the key. At the end of this you'll feel like you have a minor in medicine. But, when you go to the doctor you will be informed, be able to ask intelligent questions, and express your concerns. Personally I have had better relations with my docs when they figure out I'm not a scared patient that they feel they need to "protect."
When you have researched the treatment options, weigh them all out, talk with family, friends, spouse/significant other...and make YOUR choice. Trust me, that truly is half the battle.
You'll be fine; you'll make it through this, a stronger and more confident person. You have this cyber family that will be here for you...me included.
Gary