Hi Kelsi.
Don't be discouraged by what you read here. Like the others said, everyone is different. While I'm sure everyone here has had their share of bad days, I don't think too many would say they have a poor quality of life since their diagnosis or treatment. It's important to remember to stay positive so that the bad days stay to a minimum, but I'm willing to bet, we all had bad days before our AN's too.
I know this whole experience has helped me to put things into perspective and appreciate things a lot more than I did before, which I think is one of the best things to happen since my surgery. I realize how lucky I am that this was a benign tumor, that I had the support of family and friends and skilled, caring doctors who made sure I made it through this okay. I am deaf in an ear that worked perfectly the day I went into the operating room, I have some facial issues and minor balance problems - but as my husband reminds me on my bad days - it sure beats the option! I'm here to raise my kids and enjoy things - and that's a pretty big deal to me.
Part of the reason it might seem like a lot of "complaining" going on here (which I don't think there is) is because it's so much easier to talk about our AN related problems with someone who knows exactly what we're talking about. I don't think anyone who hasn't been through this can really understand what we're feeling. It helps to bounce our problems or concerns off of each other because maybe we can find a solution we hadn't thought of before. And it probably keeps us from talking about it to our loved ones all the time - they definitely need a break from it too!
I hope everything goes well for you and your SO - who is obviously lucky to have you in their corner looking out for them. Let us know how things go.
Lori