My suggestion is: don't over-pack.
Remember, this isn't a vacation at a resort and, in the immediate aftermath of surgery, even the ladies won't be concerned much about how they look. The nurses are used to seeing sick people and, aside from any medical concerns, hardly care about passing judgment on anyone's appearance. I realized this when my wife was hospitalized (due to undergoing back surgery) for 5 days the year before I was diagnosed and had my AN operated on. She never wears makeup and has very, very short hair, all of which were to her distinct advantage as she slowly recuperated in the hospital after her surgery. She did ask me to being disposable 'wipes' for her face but aside from that and some (low-calorie) snack food, she didn't need much and when my 'turn' as a hospital patient came, neither did I.
All I really needed in the hospital (4 days in ICU, ½ day in a semi-private room before a mid-day discharge) were my sneakers (for walking the hallways), a robe from home and a few paperback books that I hardly read, as my vision was a bit unfocused for the first few days after surgery. It returned quickly. I slept a good deal of the time in ICU and read or watched TV when awake. The 'pillow from home' is a good idea that I wish I had thought of. Still, with my post-op fatigue, I slept just fine. I think a lot of folks bring stuff they never need or use to the hospital while some don't bring what they should. This thread should help remedy that.
Jim