Hi, jb:
Your insurance hassles are all-too common. My wife - a former insurance company claims supervisor (auto & home, not medical)- knows the ropes so she deals with the insurance company. I just have to identify myself to the insurance rep and give verbal permission for my wife to speak for me in some instances. She is patient and intrepid. She also keeps very precise records of who she speaks to, their extension and what they said. Recently, we had a discrepancy in that the insurance provider (Blue Cross) was only paying 80% of the claim when I had already met my annual deductible (for 2007) and they should have been paying at 90%. That 10% can add up, especially with a $3,000. MRI bill. After many calls and much time, the issue was resolved in our favor. I did nothing and give my wife full credit for that 'win'. The sad fact is that insurance companies make mistakes and also try to view claims in a way that favors them not paying or paying as little as possible. Also, doctor's offices and hospital billing staffs sometime mess up, too, which complicates things.
As for paying hospital bills: following my surgery and subsequent radiation treatment (FSR) I owed quite a bit in co-pays even after my insurance paid out a total of near $100,000. for my numerous MRI scans, complicated pre-op tests, doctor's fees ($28,000.) and hospital charges of well over $50,000. I contacted the hospital, anesthesiologist's office and MRI center and made individual arraignments to pay them each a monthly payment that I could afford. They usually said "O.K." without hesitation. The hospital wanted me to pay off my bill within 12 months, which I was able to do without a financial strain, so I agreed. Had I not been able to pay the entire bill in 12 months, I would have told them so and simply paid as much as I could every month. I doubt I would have had a problem as hospitals get stiffed all the time by indigent patients and those who simply refuse to pay unless sued, so my honest offer to pay a monthly stipend would have been reasonable.
I suggest you or anyone faced with high medical bills ask the doctor or institution to allow you to pay the bill incrementally. Most will and as long as you're making a 'good faith' effort to pay the bill with a regular monthly payment, even if it's small, you should be protected by law from collection actions on the part of the doctor, hospital, etc. Even now, when I receive a medical bill too big to pay at once, I simply send as much as I can and pay it off in quarters, thirds or by half as the situation presents itself. I've yet to receive a complaint from any medical office or hospital about doing that. They just keep sending a new bill each month reflecting my payment, without comment. The key is to, first, ascertain what you actually owe, after your insurance has paid it's full obligation (which can be a lengthy process, as you now know), then to attempt to make a verbal arraignment with the doctor's office, hospital or other facility to pay a monthly payment that you can afford. If they demand more than you can afford, simply state the truth: that you can't pay what they demand but that you will pay whatever it is that you can afford and make it clear that you fully intend to settle this bill, although it may take awhile. That is acting in good faith and most doctors, hospitals, etc will go along with you on that basis. Of course, in some cases, you can attempt to borrow the money needed to pay off the bill from relatives, friends or through a personal bank loan, as some folks do. Then you just have to pay back the lender, as with any other loan. However, in my experience, hospitals don't charge interest on your debt to them from an unpaid bill so it can be cheaper to pay the hospital directly each month, depending on your situation and resources.
You seem to be making progress with your claims so at this point I'll just wish you continued success.
Jim