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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #570 on: June 29, 2008, 02:34:19 pm »

Wendy,

I will soon be an ANer for 7 yrs and have come across many other ANers from here and one other AN site.  I have been to the last 3 symposiums and have met so many ANers.  So many do very well with only minimal long term problems.  Usually the SSD and maybe some slightly off balance problems only under certain conditions.  Many soon depart from here and are back to their normal life with just some slight adjustments.  Many do not have facial issues.  There are several of us who remain here and may seem like everyone ends up with some of our problems,but many do not.  Those of us who are NF2 may really seem scary when you hear of having multiple surgeries.  The time before surgery is so very scary for everyone.  I personally am pro surgery.  I have said this several times but don't over do right after surgery as you will get back to normal in good time and it is easy to overdo to prove to yourself that you can be normal again but end up too tired.  That was my find after my first surgery.  I do think of all of those who are having treatment but do not post as often as some, to wish them well.                                                     

Cheryl R

Cheryl:

Thanks for your message and for being a dedicated member of the 'AN community'.  You may not post a lot but when you do, the post is usually informative. 

I'm one of those ANers you referenced that had a good surgical (and radiation) outcome.  I've stayed an active member (and now, a moderator) here because I hoped to use my experience to encourage others, especially the newly diagnosed.  I also try to encourage those experiencing post-op difficulties.  You're right Cheryl, not every AN patient has post-op or post-radiation complications - some recover fairly quickly, as I did.   We need to emphasize that because this is an AN support site and it's only natural that those who don't need much support will drift away once they are back to normal, following successful surgery or radiation treatment.  I considered doing that, but changed my mind when I saw how much help I could be to other AN patients and decided that spending whatever internet time I had here, instead of elsewhere, was a good use of that time. 

Debbi: Hang in there and keep fighting for normalcy.  You'll persevere and win, I'm certain.  Sorry to hijack your thread for a minute but I wanted to respond to Cheryl's cogent comments.  Now, back to our regularly scheduled thread.

Jim
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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #571 on: June 29, 2008, 02:46:07 pm »
No one has to apologize for posting here - I welcome the dialoge and find it all helpful and encouraging - so thank you to everyone!

Cheryl, you are always so encouraging to everyone here, and you've certainly been a wonderful friend to me!  Wendy, you are such a trooper and I just have a really GOOD feeling about your surgery!  Jim, I always love reading your posts - so thoughtful and well written, and always so worth reading! 

Lainie, the Z-Vibe ... I got it from an online store [url][http://www.superduperinc.com/url]  This was recommended by the facial therapist I saw, along with something called a NUK, which I also ordered from superduperinc.  I did ask my neurotologist about it and he wasn't familiar with it, but felt that the massaging action would be helpful. 

BTW, not sure if it is a false alarm, but Willie and I think we saw a small muscle twitch next to the corner of my mouth.  We had to really study it to make sure we were actually seeing something (heck, I can't tell with my blurry vision!) but pretty sure I have something teeny, tiny going on!  I'm trying not to get over-excited, but ...  ;D

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Debbi - diagnosed March 4, 2008 
2.4 cm Right Side AN
Translab April 30, 2008 at NYU with Drs. Golfinos and Roland
SSD Right ear, Mild synkinesis and facial nerve damage
BAHA "installed" Feb 2011 by Dr. Cosetti @ NYU

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #572 on: June 29, 2008, 03:35:12 pm »
Debbi~
So glad for the movement that you guys saw - I still remember driving down a highway in Austin looking in the mirror (Dave was actually driving) when I got my 1st bit of movement after my 12/7!

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Translab 12/95@Houston Methodist(Baylor College of Medicine)for "HUGE" tumor-no size specified
25 yrs then-14 hour surgery-stroke
12/7 Graft 1/97
Gold Weight x 5
SSD
Facial Paralysis-R(no movement or feelings in face,mouth,eye)
T3-3/08
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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #573 on: June 29, 2008, 09:30:31 pm »
Debbi -
How great that you think or did see some movement by your mouth!  I know you don't want to get too excited, so I will get excited for you!  I'mhoping and praying you two are right and you get your smile back even soner than the doc predicted. 

Wishing you all good  things!

Wendy
1.3 cm at time of diagnosis -  April 9, 2008
2 cm at time of surgery
SSD right side translabyrinthine July 25, 2008
Mt. Sinai Hospital, New York, NY
Extremely grateful for the wonderful Dr. Choe & Dr. Chen
BAHA surgery 1/5/09
Doing great!

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #574 on: June 29, 2008, 10:24:47 pm »
Hi Debbi,
Thank you for the information. I am going to try it.
Lainie.

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #575 on: June 30, 2008, 07:35:46 am »
   To all of you, thank you for your support.        I do have my up and down days.        My family really doesn't get it that I appear normal but after 3 tumors and 4 surgeries I do not feel normal and never will completely.    NF2 is not a fun condition to have even though I am better off than many NF2ers.                   They don't seem to have a clue that now having had surgery on both sides makes a difference in how one is.             I did end up much better than it was even expected to be and I am sure my body was already compensating.
   My husband doesn't understand why I like this site and just being on the computer so much.    He does make occ comments.          However the tv is on the minute he is in the house and thats no problem with him!
        Life does go on and we all do the best we can,            One of these days I will get a picture on too   when my daughter is here and can do it for me.
                                                   Cheryl R
Right mid fossa 11-01-01
  left tumor found 5-03,so have NF2
  trans lab for right facial nerve tumor
  with nerve graft 3-23-06
   CSF leak revision surgery 4-07-06
   left mid fossa 4-17-08
   near deaf on left before surgery
   with hearing much improved .
    Univ of Iowa for all care

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #576 on: June 30, 2008, 08:47:51 am »
Cheryl,
Even though you are better off than many NF@ers, it doesn't diminish what you have gone through and how you feel.  It's great that you have such a positive attitude though.  As for your husband not understanding, I think that is not uncommon, in fact, it seems that many people just don't get what any of us ae going through because we do look so normal or close to it.  If you look good on the outside it's hard for them to relate to what's going on on the inside, or that is certainly my perception.  Hang in there, you are entitled to bad days now and again, but I hope you have more good days than bad.  Thank you again.

Wendy

Hi Debbi -
Any new signs of movement?  I'm crossing everything crossable for you.  Hope y ou have a great day!  I'll check back later to see if you've posted.

Wendy
1.3 cm at time of diagnosis -  April 9, 2008
2 cm at time of surgery
SSD right side translabyrinthine July 25, 2008
Mt. Sinai Hospital, New York, NY
Extremely grateful for the wonderful Dr. Choe & Dr. Chen
BAHA surgery 1/5/09
Doing great!

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #577 on: June 30, 2008, 09:46:15 am »
Cheryl - you know you are one of my ultimate heroes!  And, I know some NF2ers have it worse, but I am still not sure how anyone deals with multiple AN diagnosis with as much grace and dignity as you. 

Wendy, about the facial movement - it is very small (think teeny) and as I look at it, I think it is actually my lower cheek moving.  That would make sense in terms of how Dr. Roland explained the nerve healing process.  The shortest "arm" of the facial nerve is the one that is in the cheek; the longest sections are the mouth and eye. So, it woudl make sense that I would start to get some small movement back in my cheek first.  When I was in the hospital the second time, I got that little muscle right under my eye, in my upper cheek back.  That was a little over a month ago.  Whatever it is, though, it's still exciting. 

Meanwhile, the dreaded pirate smile is still with me...  :P  And, as Debbie oHIo so adeptly put it, the Marty Felman eye.   ;D 

Debbi
Debbi - diagnosed March 4, 2008 
2.4 cm Right Side AN
Translab April 30, 2008 at NYU with Drs. Golfinos and Roland
SSD Right ear, Mild synkinesis and facial nerve damage
BAHA "installed" Feb 2011 by Dr. Cosetti @ NYU

http://debsanadventure.blogspot.com

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #578 on: June 30, 2008, 10:12:47 am »
If one needs multiple surgeries, you don't get a choice and just deal with it.       That's all you can do.                 I think being a nurse has been a help to me.    I know of some who have been thru much worse conditions than what I have been thru.  I knew in time that I would have a normalish life even if for a while we are recovering.     I don't like being retired now but I don't think I could handle the extreme busyness that we went thru where I worked.          The big wigs there don't really realize what  patient care is like.   ( That's another whole story)   
         Jeff is the one to me who has been thru so much and done so well.      Tony also has been thru many surgeries and came thru well.
         I always hope that others do not think I mention my NF2 as a way to prove I have been worse off than one who just has one surgery.          That is not my intent but to show we can survive and have knowledge about this whole experience.                 Some larger tumor ANers have been thru a great deal more  and recover in time.
                                                   Cheryl R
Right mid fossa 11-01-01
  left tumor found 5-03,so have NF2
  trans lab for right facial nerve tumor
  with nerve graft 3-23-06
   CSF leak revision surgery 4-07-06
   left mid fossa 4-17-08
   near deaf on left before surgery
   with hearing much improved .
    Univ of Iowa for all care

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #579 on: July 01, 2008, 03:48:58 pm »
Debbi--hope those small movements in your cheek get bigger every day. Down with the Marty Feldman eye, up with those proverbial  cheek "apples'' just crying out for a perfect application of blush!
5 cm AN surgery, Shands Hospital, FL, Dr Albert Rhoton, 1988; VII-XII anastamosis for right-sided facial palsy 1989; diagnosed Feb 2008 w/ 1.8 cm recurrence; drs McKenna & Martuza; surgery rescheduled for 6/24/08!

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #580 on: July 01, 2008, 05:54:35 pm »

"Debbi--hope those small movements in your cheek get bigger every day. Down with the Marty Feldman eye, up with those proverbial  cheek "apples'' just crying out for a perfect application of blush!"
I burned my wrist w/scalding watrt, but even that can't keep me away.  I guess I am addicted!  The above quoe is from Carrie but this is the best I could do with my left hand.  Hope you are well and had a good day

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1.3 cm at time of diagnosis -  April 9, 2008
2 cm at time of surgery
SSD right side translabyrinthine July 25, 2008
Mt. Sinai Hospital, New York, NY
Extremely grateful for the wonderful Dr. Choe & Dr. Chen
BAHA surgery 1/5/09
Doing great!

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #581 on: July 02, 2008, 08:23:35 pm »
HI Debbi...

Just checking in to see how you are doing. Glad to find you are finding some things to get excited about. Hoping for more and bigger twiches for you everyday!

Trish
Left 2.9cm CP Angle AN discovered Jan 2008. Retrosig surgery June 2, 2008 Toronto, Canada. Facial paralysis and numbness, double vision (4th nerve), SSD. DV totally recovered in 4th month; palsy started to recover slowly around month 7. Had twin boys 13 months after surgery. Doing great.

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #582 on: July 02, 2008, 09:04:57 pm »
oHIo -
  I'm right with you on this one - my facial function was pretty good right after surgery.  24 hours later, it was pretty much gone.  I am working on making slight movements with my mouth - I can feel the muscles moving a bit, though I don't think you can see it if you look at me.  Do you have feeling in your face?  I do, and figure that's a good sign at least.  They told me 3-6 months for function to return, so I guess I'll be working on that timetable.  You did have facial nerve monitoring during surgery too, right?

Tammy

Tammy...yes, I had facial nerve monitoring during surgery.  I have full feeling in my face.  Even a few days after surgery, I had muscle spasms in my face if I touch over my eye, or my cheek.  No synkenesis, just spasms that draw up my lip or eyebrow.  I don't know whether that is a good thing or bad thing, but it helps to accentuate my Marty Feldman eye  ;)

I also had really severe pain in my cheek, under my ear where my jawbones meet at around 8 weeks post op.  For 4 days, I wanted to cry it hurt so bad.  I saw the doctor who thought it was TMJ, but it disappeared suddenly, right after seeing the doctor (go figure).  My theory is that it was nerve pain because TMJ normally just doesn't suddenly stop hurting.  I had taken pain medication and it didn't help, so something was up. 

I also had an intracranial bleed at the beginning and end of my surgery, which was repaired, but I wonder if that didn't contribute to my slower recovery along with the spinal fluid leak. 

While I complain at times, I believe I am doing well and have had a good outcome.  I went back to work at 9 weeks (Memorial Day week) working long days (10-12 hours) and feel pretty good.  Other than my eye and uncooperative face, I pretty much feel back to normal.  My friends would tell you I was never normal.  ;D  Even the eye and face issues have not slowed me down. 

Debbi...I hope the twitches, no matter how tiny, continue. 

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #583 on: July 03, 2008, 06:33:49 am »
Hi Debbi -
Just checking in to say I hope all is well.  I'm not sure I'll get to post again today as we are leaving on vacation later today and I'll be really busy for the rest of the day.  I hope your cheek twitches quickly turn into real movement and your face is back to normal by the time I get back home.  Take care and I'll check in in about two weeks, if not sooner.

Wendy
1.3 cm at time of diagnosis -  April 9, 2008
2 cm at time of surgery
SSD right side translabyrinthine July 25, 2008
Mt. Sinai Hospital, New York, NY
Extremely grateful for the wonderful Dr. Choe & Dr. Chen
BAHA surgery 1/5/09
Doing great!

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Re: Debbi Bifulco Update
« Reply #584 on: July 03, 2008, 08:26:56 am »
Yep, I definitely have something going on in my lower cheek.  I would estimate the movement at the corner of my mouth at about 1/8 of an inch (at best) - you really have to look hard to see it - but it's definitely there!

Debbie, I know what you mean about that weird facial pain - I've had problems with that off and on for about 3 weeks.  It comes on suddenly and hurts like the d***ens.  I've had TMJ (still wear a night guard) and this isn't it.  Seems to be getting better, though.  I found that percoset actually works pretty well when it flairs up, you just can't take it during the day or at any other time when coherence is needed!   ;D

Wendy, I hope you have an AWESOME and relaxing vacation!  Try not to dwell too much on the upcoming surgery.

I wonder if the rest of the "marty feldman club" gets this - when I get tired, my speech starts to slur a bit.  It is mostly the Ps and Bs, and I know the slurring is because my mouth is getting lazy.  Frustrating, though.  Have any of the rest of you experienced this?

Debbi - occasionally slurring my b's and p's
Debbi - diagnosed March 4, 2008 
2.4 cm Right Side AN
Translab April 30, 2008 at NYU with Drs. Golfinos and Roland
SSD Right ear, Mild synkinesis and facial nerve damage
BAHA "installed" Feb 2011 by Dr. Cosetti @ NYU

http://debsanadventure.blogspot.com