Vicki,
First of all an enormous HUG to you!You have been thorough the mill.
I can totally empathize. There is a light at the end of the tunnel - hang in there.
I first complained of symptoms in 1998. Often my symptoms were cyclical being that PMS causes water retention and too the AN tumor would swell up at this time- magnifying things.
After blood work came back “normal� and I still had symptoms my physician suggested physically I was just fine but perhaps I should see a
stress therapist.
8 year later I was still having symptoms. I switched PCP’s. Fortunately a hearing test was conducted so a flag of marginal hearing loss was noted – however it was suggested this may
just be part of aging.
Cyclical symptoms persisted and worsened. So get this a hysterectomy was performed as we noted a 60 % growth in a fibroid tumor. I was convinced that my issues were not all in my head and there was something physically wrong with me so I went ahead
with this surgery hoping it would make me well- but it did not. (Well it was in my head alright- just not metaphorically but literally.) Fibroid tumors, which are not uncommon in women at my age, if left alone will normally shrivel up at menopause. Turned out the benign fibroid tumor was already degenerate (i.e. already cut off from the blood supply) and the pathology showed a perfectly healthy uterus was removed. Yup- we pulled out a normal healthy body part unnecessarily as we
barked up the wrong tree.
Nobody thought to look for an
Acoustic Neuroma tumor. (Mine was 4cm when we finally found it) Basically much of the “generalist medical community� is simply not educated on this subject.
I was initially only offered one neurotologist and one
neurologist for referral by my ENT. (I explained I went on-line to this forum and I wanted more than the surgeons in my locale and asked “what about a neurosurgeon�.
BTW a neurologist is NOT what you need here). I did see the local surgeons offered to me - but my experiences were similar to what you have described with surgeons you saw- unprofessional support staff, and not get basic questions answered on the phone within a timely manner (One actually hung up the phone one me.). I also came to realize that here in my state these surgeons were big fish in a small pond (with egos to match) and I needed to look at a broader spectrum of people in their field who were more reputable (I actually decided to look for the “world renowned�.)
Chances are if this is how they are treating you now you can predict this is what is going to also be the case when you get home form hospital and need support with any post op complications etc.
I interviewed nine surgeons. One stood out in his replies to me but also his support staff and office team were exemplary in their professionalism and people skills: not just in person, but over the phone and their prompt handling of paperwork. Interestingly that the medical staff in my own state gave me the run-around and took forever to get back to me yet the surgeon I choose, out-of-state, was always able to get back to me sooner than they were. I just went to a recent support group meeting and many other people here who stuck with this one surgeon here had the run-around also …and seem to now have lack of follow up care and support.
Yes there are some real yutz’s in the medical profession- but there are in other professions too. However
know there are also some exemplary ones – the trick it to find them. I networked and asked questions of many people on this forum and continued to pursue the most successful and professional and suitable medical practice for my case (remember each case is different.) There were many emotional hurdles on the way. I also realized some surgeons were competing with others surgeons to get my case and actually would backbite their colleagues to make themselves look better. This is a commercial healthcare system in the USA and that can be one drawback to it. I chose the surgeon who did not participate in this negative behavior and who treated me with respect and dignity AND also had an excellent professional track record.
Know this resource is available if you want to look up malpractice suits and past history of a medical professional. Chances are if you are experiencing negative behaviors with a medical practitioner- others have to.
www.healthgrades.comNot only do you need someone who is of the utmost integrity, honesty and efficiency before and during surgery but also AFTER surgery. I believe follow-up care is key to the successful recovery of a patient: mentally, physically and spiritually and the more team approach that can be taken in this regard- the better. “The team� requires skilled and
compassionate physicians (plus their support staff), physical therapists and the willingness of the patient to participate in their part of the recovery plan.
Basically you need a practice that is displaying good “team skills� not just now - but also later (post surgery)
I still think the team I chose is giving me great support and now that I have met with others in a support group meeting in my locale- I am even
more convinced of this. Know I chose surgeon #8 of the 9 I interviewed.
You and I will beat ourselves up if we try to go back in time and say, “shoulda -woulda- coulda�. Hey if I was listened to 9 years ago, when I first complained of symptoms, I could have had the radiation surgery option over open surgery … but I cannot go there now. I have to be thankful that the tumor is out, I do not have cognitive issues, I am still here to help my family and I now have enough energy to also help others.
I am SO sorry you are going though this.
Know that you still have time and you do still have options. Some discover this so late they have no options at all. SATMAN (one of my ANA forum super heroes) had his 8CM discovered and treated only when he was admitted to emergency …and we almost lost him. He had been seeing an ENT for
years before… Thank God he is still with us and he found support here ...and is moving forward with his life.
MORE HUGS
This is why our ANA needs to grow bigger and stronger. The key is we need to work together to not just educate other patents but also the
medical community. It is important that you tell you story so that others can learn from this.
My suggestion is try to let go of the anger at the incompetence you keep experiencing within the medical community. Hard as it might be - try to keep placing yourself in the role of
educator with them- as well as patient. Document Document Document ...everything that is happening. Do as much as your communication to them, as possible, in writing -so you have more documentation…
I also suggest that you obtain more opinions. I decided my role was not to support the local medical economy (and boy some were competitive with each other and manipulating me, the patient, as they acted act more as salesmen than they did as medical professionals.) I went out to find the best I could get in the US for my treatment.
Stay connected with us here on the forum. Gather as much information as you can from the ANA and the invaluable resource of experienced people on this forum here… but also
try not to get too overwhelmed with all the information. We are at an “information era� that often we have more information about treatment (and follow up) options available to AN patients as now this is now available to us (Thank goodness). We are more motivated to get the best information and understand it… perhaps more motivated than the medical community.
I have learned that the best advocate for me in all of this is -
me. And the ANA is there to provide me with support when I feel that my situation is hopeless.
Hey this time last year I had never even
heard of an acoustic neuroma heck knows how to pronounce “vestibular schwannoma�…
I did find a good surgeon- eventually. I did survive surgery and lived to tell about it. I am now getting follow up help (physio, etc) but I had to work at it… and I got a lot of support here from the forum not just in finding a surgeon, but accommodations out-of-state, physiotherapy etc.
I know right now you may not believe this – but you WILL get through this. Keep moving forward and know you ARE supported.
Hugs
Daisy Head Mazy
P.S.
You really need to read this DR. Seuss book-
Daisy Head Mazy - I think you, too, will relate to the main character and her journey
http://www.amazon.com/Daisy-Head-Mayzie-Classic-Seuss-Dr/dp/0679867120/ref=pd_bbs_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1210524497&sr=1-2Another goodie is
You're Only Old Once! A Book for Obsolete Children http://www.amazon.com/Youre-Only-Once-Obsolete-Children/dp/0394551907(This is Seuss's hilarious poke at the medical system)
You will soon discover, hard as this may be for you right now, that maintaining a sense a humor
will keep you sane through this wild AN journey