Myrty -
I don't know if you still need advice on SSDI - your post was from awhile ago. Maybe someone else will read and need the help as well. I write from 2 perspectives: an AN'r who actually did apply for SSDI and receive the benefits - "on the record" even, which simply means they didn't even bother to put me through a hearing, and also I'm an attorney who did a tiny bit of this work (emphasis on tiny) several years ago. Raydean, in her response, was right on about writing down everything AND how it affects your husband's work. The standards for SSDI revolve around limitations to ability to work and function, so that is how you must think. I know it was very hard for me to get into that mindset at the time I applied because I could certainly do SOMEthings...and for many people, it is very difficult to admit to any kind of "failure" (in the sense of not being able to do things they used to be able to do). But, you just have to. You need to be 100% honest, but that includes admitting you (your husband) is a wreck. If his symptoms cause him to need a nap after 1 hour of very light work, document that. Talk to his doctor about that. Make a total and complete nuisance of yourselves over these PHYSICAL issues. I emphasize physical because the SSA is typically not too concerned, unfortunately, about emotional or mental issues. I.e., they won't necessarily care that you are depressed, but they might care if your depressioin causes headaches or fatigue.
The other thing I would STRONGLY recommend is taking the time and spending the money to at least consult with an attorney - and it has to be one who specializes in Soc Sec Disability - otherwise, don't bother. It's a very, very specialized field. I know the attorney I hired was a huge reason why I got my benefits. She knew how to write the petition, who to send it to that would give it the best chance of getting around regular channels, etc. Of course, I was a physical mess, but I still think I would have been denied until at least the appeal level. By then, you are so broke and demoralized you are likely to give up.
But never say never!!! Just document like crazy, talk to your doctor(s) like crazy, and talk to an attorney. It does work.
Anyone can feel free to contact me about this.
Jane
RS surgery Aug 2005