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Roger64

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Newbie with lots of questions.
« on: October 13, 2008, 09:20:04 pm »
Newbie – Surgery is schedule for Oct. 30th. I we found out on 8/18 of my AN. Which was bad enough but, I got the news via cell phone at lunch time! Thanks to the VA. Plus my wife is 25 weeks pregnant and due in January.  Now have two little girls (6 and 3) that do not know that it’s a “tumorâ€? they just know that daddy doesn’t feel well and has been “sickâ€? a lot.  Obviously we are trying to protect them from the severity of this illness.  But, how much do we tell them? How do we even start the conversation? What advise can you give me for my wife? Especial what to expect after surgery and how to coop?  What should I expect? Also, what do I need at the hospital? What should I do to prepare the house? Any other advise?

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« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2008, 09:47:51 pm »
Roger -

sorry to hear you've joined us, but you're definitely come to the right place.  Mind if I ask, what size is your AN? and where are you having your surgery?

We can, and will, offer you all kinds of advice - sometimes whether you ask us or not  :D

Congratulations to you and your wife on the impending birth of baby #3.  I have two children myself, but they are pre-teens.

IMO you shouldn't tell your girls too much, because they are too small to really understand.  I'm not sure what you mean by the "severity of this illness", but let me assure you that while you may not be "yourself" for a while post op, and you might have some lingering post op issues, an AN isn't normally debilitating.  I'm sure your doctor(s) informed you of what possible surgical side-effects you are facing, but every AN patient is different and we don't all encounter every side-effect.  In my case, I have no facial nerve damage, but I am SSD (single-sided deaf); I now wear a BAHA (bone-attached hearing aid).

Your girls should be able to visit you in the hospital 2 or 3 days post op and the biggest thing they'll probably notice is the large, white, mastoid bandage wrapped around your head.  Other than that, you'll most likely just look like dad to them  :)

There are many threads on the forum about what to bring to the hospital, what to expect, etc.  Here are just a couple:

http://anausa.org/forum/index.php?topic=5830.msg55804#msg55804

http://anausa.org/forum/index.php?topic=5798.0

You might also find suggestions for your wife under the caregiver section.

Others will be along shortly to add their suggestions and thoughts, but feel free to ask me anything you'd like (I'm not shy) either through the public forum or through a PM or an email (it's listed in my profile).

Good luck,

Jan


Retrosig 5/31/07 Drs. Battista & Kazan (Hinsdale, Illinois)
Left AN 3.0 cm (1.5 cm @ diagnosis 6 wks prior) SSD. BAHA implant 3/4/08 (Dr. Battista) Divino 6/4/08  BP100 4/2010 BAHA 5 8/2015

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2008, 11:13:37 pm »
Hi Roger,

I would tell the kids that something is broken, you are getting it fixed, and you will be fine. They will mainly be concerned about whether you will be back to read them stories and watch their school play, to which the answer is certainly yes. I would tell your wife that you won't be much help around the house for a month or so, that you will be taking lots of naps, and you may be a bit grumpy sometimes, but you still love her.

Welcome to the forum. No matter what size of AN you have, and what symptoms you have going in or coming out of surgery, there will be members here who have been there and done that, and can help you out and support you through the process. Best wishes for the 30th.

Steve
8 mm left AN June 2007,  CK at Stanford Sept 2007.
Hearing lasted a while, but left side is deaf now.
Right side is weak too. Life is quiet.

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2008, 05:35:33 am »
Hi Jan,

I am having it done at St Vincent Hospital in Indianapolis. I have and 8x5 mm tumor on the left side. I guess I am still in the dark about all of this.

Roger

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2008, 06:38:27 am »
Hi Roger

I'm quite a newbie too so i'm going through the same issues and confusion as you. Joining this group is a great first step as you will really find lots of help and support. Its also good to see the experiences of others and get some ideas as to what you can expect. I found it useful to just browse through previous posts here to find out info, though some of the more experienced members can probably point you to more specific advice and share their personal experiences with you.

The best advice seems to be to ask lots of questions and make sure you are 100% comfortable with your surgeons and the treatment. I'll be thinking of you on the 30th.

Best wishes

Hannie

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« Reply #5 on: October 14, 2008, 07:07:16 am »
Welcome?  Very sorry you are going through this, but you aren't alone.

Your tumor is in the "small" range and I am wondering if your doctor offered you "Wait and Watch" as an option?  Also radiation treatment is the other form of treatment.  If you do not have debilitating symptoms, ie:  severe balance issues, nausea, headaches, facial nerve palsy/weakness, "W&W" is a good thing to consider as these tumors tend to stop growing for a while or grow very slowly.

The recovery from surgery can be somewhere between 6 weeks to one year.  Some people have debilitating headaches after one year.  One doesn't know how they will heal, but the majority recover within 6 weeks and back to work shortly thereafter.  Regaining balance and learning to walk, spin around, move your head side to side will be your challenge and vestibular re-training therapy is a must after surgery.  Also many people suffer from "brain drain" and find themselves in an exhausted state just doing the most simple of tasks.  There is much going on for the brain to assimilate; eye focus, brain processesing all incoming stimulation and body balancing itself, is exhausting.  Some discover they are deaf on the operated side and this is a learning curve in itself, but one that is easily overcome. 

Your wife will be faced with her own set of challenges too.  There is a new category to this site for the "Caregivers" and can be helpful to her.  My recovery was helped along by my husband's patience (I was impatient and grumpy) and prodding (had to get up and perform exercises every hour on the hour for 6 weeks straight) to get my balance back.  He had to learn to deal with my deafness, no talking from another room, no talking to me while I'm on the phone, trying to remember what side is my good side when in public so I can hear him better in stores, restaurants, keeping his mustache trimmed (he still is lazy about this) so I can see his lips moving (I learned to read lips), speaking clearly and slow, etc.  This was a huge learning curve for him and frustrating time for me--lots of sighing on my part. 

If your facial nerve is involved you may discover your taste is alterted for a short period of time, my taste came back after 6 weeks.  I still have, on some days, numbness at the tip of my tongue, metal taste in my mouth or can't taste much.  This comes and goes and I'm used to it, doesn't bother me much. 

Feel free to ask anything you want knowing we are here to help. 
1/05 Retrosigmoid 1.5cm AN left ear, SSD
2/08 Labyrinthectomy left ear 
Dr. Patrick Antonelli Shands at University of Florida, Gainesville, FL
12/09 diagnosis of semicircular canal dehiscence right ear

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #6 on: October 14, 2008, 09:00:16 am »
Hi, Roger -

my AN was on the left side too, but larger than yours.

I've heard of St. Vincents in Indianapolis from someone on the forum, but who it was escapes me   ???   I'll do a search when I have a little more time - need to get back to doing my work shortly  ::)

It's probably a mute point, since your surgery is already scheduled, but did you look into radiation at all? 

Also, if you get a chance, you might want to contact the ANA and ask them for their informational brochures.  In addition to this forum, the brochures will help you come "out of the dark".

Jan
Retrosig 5/31/07 Drs. Battista & Kazan (Hinsdale, Illinois)
Left AN 3.0 cm (1.5 cm @ diagnosis 6 wks prior) SSD. BAHA implant 3/4/08 (Dr. Battista) Divino 6/4/08  BP100 4/2010 BAHA 5 8/2015

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #7 on: October 14, 2008, 12:24:53 pm »
Roger:

I'm sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis, but happy that it is a BENIGN tumor.  The main difficulty lies in the location.  Surgically getting to the tumor is the tough part.  However, after 100+ years of doing this surgery, they have improved the technique to the millimeter.  As Arushi said, your tumor is indeed small.  If you look at outcome data, most side effects are directly correlated with tumor size (ie facial nerve damage, hearing loss, etc.).  So you have two great things in your favor--the tumor is small and it is benign. 

I know you're feeling a rush of emotions right now (we all can relate), but bear in mind that this diagnosis allows you the luxury of time.  At that size, you have time to research options (ie watch and wait vs. radiation vs. surgery).  By waiting, you may risk your hearing (if you look at 2 and 5 year data). You can have consultations with multiple surgeons to decide who you think is best equipped to do the job.  Some general principles apply:

1.  A team approach that includes a Neuro-otologist, a Neurosurgeon and a Neurologist (or equivalent to monitor the facial nerve and hearing nerve).
2.  A team that does this surgery very often.  I would say that both surgeons should have performed hundreds of YOUR SPECIFIC TYPE OF SURGERY.  One of the problems is that sometimes you see a surgeon who recommends a specific surgical approach based solely on his or her training, not necessarily what is best for your tumor.  You want to see a surgeon who performs all 3 types of surgeries(middle fossa, translabrynthe or retrosigmoid).  Then you know that they are choosing the right approach for your situation.
3.  Don't worry about the travel part, if you can't get good care locally, then by all means, go to where you can get good care.  Flying afterward is fine as the cabins are pressurized.

Also, you might consider other options such as 'radiation' or 'watch and wait'.  Steve has experience with CyberKnife (radiation), I believe and he had a great experience.

In sum, despite the news of a 'tumor in your brain', you're going to be OK.  Education is essential to deliver a satisfactory result.

This website has been a great resource to garnish perspective on this whole issue.  Feel free to contact me any time.

Best of luck.

Dufreyne

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #8 on: October 14, 2008, 05:35:58 pm »
I've looked at radiation options but it is not for me. I know it's a different type of radiation then what they use for cancer but I have to many family members get secondary post cancer from the radiation. Plus, I am not a big fan of it.

I don't understand the wait and see option. The way I see it your waiting for nothing good I prefer just to get it done and over with.


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« Reply #9 on: October 14, 2008, 06:18:58 pm »
I understand your position.  I just want you to be aware of the 3 general treatment tracks---watch and wait, radiation and surgery.  If you're fairly decisive on surgery, then there are three different 'approaches'--middle fossa, translabrynthe and retrosigmoid.  Hopefully, your surgeon discussed the various options and his or her reasons for their proposed approach--as well as the potential side effects of each approach. 

What you are trying to avoid is a rush decision on a small, benign tumor.  That scenario has happened far too many times.  If you fully understand all of your options and potential upside and downside of each option, then you will be best prepared for whatever outcome occurs.

Best of luck.

Dufreyne

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #10 on: October 15, 2008, 06:02:37 pm »
Roger -

sounds like you are comfortable with your choice of surgery and that's great.  I had surgery myself, so I can't knock it.

As we like to stress here, treatment choice is a very personal choice.  What's right for me, may not be right for you, etc.

In my prior post I just wanted to make sure you were aware that there are sometimes options other than surgery, since sometimes docs who don't believe in the "other options" tend not to mention them  ::)

You are definitely informed, so let me be among the first to say congratulations on making your treatment decision.  One of the very hardest parts of having an AN is now over - seriously.

Jan
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Left AN 3.0 cm (1.5 cm @ diagnosis 6 wks prior) SSD. BAHA implant 3/4/08 (Dr. Battista) Divino 6/4/08  BP100 4/2010 BAHA 5 8/2015

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Re: Newbie with lots of questions.
« Reply #11 on: October 17, 2008, 06:49:25 pm »
How long did you take to get back to work and normal activities?

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« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2008, 07:08:45 pm »
I'm an accountant by trade, so it's basically a desk job - nothing physically strenous.

I was back to work part time (half days) in 2 weeks and full time in 4 weeks.  On the half days, I'd work in the morning and come home to sleep in the afternoon.

A lot depends on what your job entails and what your post op "issues" are.

My worst issues were balance and fatigue.  The balance greatly improved in the first 3 weeks post op, but it wasn't perfect.  The vestibular exercises my neurotologist had me do both pre and post op really helped.  The fatigue stayed with me for a long time, though.

It's very important not to overdo.  There are times you think you're back to "normal" and the fatigue hits you like a brick wall.  Overdoing things also has the potential to set back your progress.  Everyone recovers at their own rate and it's not a race.  So listen to your body - it will let you know your limitations and how fast or slow you should proceed.

Jan
Retrosig 5/31/07 Drs. Battista & Kazan (Hinsdale, Illinois)
Left AN 3.0 cm (1.5 cm @ diagnosis 6 wks prior) SSD. BAHA implant 3/4/08 (Dr. Battista) Divino 6/4/08  BP100 4/2010 BAHA 5 8/2015

I don't actually "make" trouble..just kind of attract it, fine tune it, and apply it in new and exciting ways

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« Reply #13 on: October 18, 2008, 07:02:46 am »
Hello Roger!!

First thing first....Congrats on the new baby!! 

Second you found a terrific sight!!  I just found these outstanding people myself a few days ago!! 

I am not here for me, well sort of for me, but my father (58 i somehow missed a birthday LOL) was diagnosed 2 weeks ago....his surgery is scheduled for Nov 4th.  His tumor is in the moderate size.....he has lost his hearing in the left ear....as well as lost feeling on the left side of his face....forehead, cheek, nose, roof of mouth, tongue, bottom lip....

I have been dealing with the "what to tell the kids".  I have 2 boys 6yr and 8yr.  We live an hour away from my parents and the boys stay frequently with them.....I was not going to tell them much until we actually have our first consult with the surgeon coming up on the 24th.....but my brother told his daughter (6yrs) that papaw was having surgery.....and of course she told the boys!!  I still havent gone into much detail.....I will let them know what it is and everything will be ok!  I wasnt even sure of the ok thing until I found this forum..... :) 

I can honestly say that your wife (if she wants) should read some post...ask some questions...Maybe you will find someone in your area that she can talk with....I did I found 2 members both had the same surgeon as my father will.....it has helped tremendously!! 

I think knowing that you aren't the only one with AN or in my case dealing with a family member with AN has made what seemed to be so drastic and scary..... dealable (is that even a word??  :D) I know sharing the info with my father and my mother has helped them realize that yes life will change, but what's life without a challenge from time to time!! ;)

Good Luck with everything and remember you and your family are not alone!!!   :) 
Loving daughter to my
Father recovering from AN surgery
9/4/08 at The Ohio State University Medical Center
Dr. Welling and Dr. McGregor
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« Reply #14 on: October 18, 2008, 08:12:27 am »
Roger,
I was back to work part-time at 6 weeks, full-time at 8 weeks.  We are all so different however, that I caution you not to hold yourself to some standard.  You will feel well when you feel well and not a moment before.  I am now 3 months post-op and except for some minor side-effects I am back to my old self.  Or my new self, depends on how you look at it.
Marci
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