Hi Kim,
These decisions are so tough. Even if you favor surgery over radiation, there are the types of decisions you're dealing with now - retro vs. translab, hearing vs. facial nerve, choice of surgical teams, etc. I can really identify with what you're feeling!
You've received lots of great info from everyone here already. Whatever you chose will be what feels most right for you, all I can add is how I personally dealt with this decision.
I had a 1.6 cm left AN (1.9 at the time of surgery 6 mos. later) that was mostly located in the CP angle, with only a small portion in the internal auditory canal. I had 96% hearing, but was not a candidate for a middle fossa due to the location of the tumor.
I live in LA, so my first consultation was from a doctor at House - I'l just call him doctor #1. Doc #1 said translab, and would not even consider anything else. I was SO disappointed that he wouldn't even discuss saving my hearing.
I had a second consult at UCLA where a friend of mine had a retro, and six months later was doing fine. But I just wasn't comfortable with the number of surgeries they did compared to House.
I had been reading of other House docs from forum members, but didn't think I could go back to consult with a different doc at House. Turns out I was able to consult with two more doctors there. Doc #2 at House said he'd do a retro if the ABR test showed good activity of the hearing nerve, but when the results came back, it put my chances of hearing preservation at only 20%. He said in this case he'd prefer to do a translab.
I really wasn't comfortable having surgery without at least the attempt to save my hearing. Doc #3 put my chances at about 35% - still not great - but I felt more comfortable going into surgery with at least some chance. I had also researched others on the forum who had retros either with the same team or at House, and none had suffered any facial weakness, which was my other concern. I was lucky that I did not have a sticky tumor and they were able to remove it all. They were not able to save my hearing, but I had no other post op issues and recovered fairly quickly. I, personally, feel better that I went this route and my hearing nerve was preserved, even if the hearing never returns (which it probably won't). It's just what I needed to do to make myself feel comfortable.
It's great that you're doing your research and have lots of options. I'm sure soon you'll find one that feels right for you.
Wishing you all the best in your decision-making,
Nancy L