Hi and welcome, Joey. Sorry you have a reason to be here (AN diagnosis) but glad you found us. With the understanding that every AN patient is unique and that we're not doctors, let me offer you my attempt at answering your very pertinent questions.
1. Small. Your tumor is approximately 1 centimeter in area, which is relatively tiny, as these tumors go. Example: mine was over 4 cm.
2. Social Security Disability approval is difficult to obtain, as some of our members can attest. It can take months. You may need an attorney to assist you in the tedious process. If you have a private disability plan, it might be a bit simpler. With any luck at all, you won't be disabled. You should be able to care for your son, although you'll definitely need some help during the first few weeks of your recovery.
3. 6 weeks for recovery may be a tad optimistic but again, recovery varies with every patient and is dependent on a host of factors, including whether you experience any complications relative to the surgery. Some AN post-op patients take months to return to normalcy but many only need 6 to 8 weeks.
4. Again, it varies. I was given permission to drive (by my neurosurgeon) 2 weeks after my surgery...but I had few complications and an excellent recovery. I can only hope you have a similar recuperation experience.
5. Ballpark guess - with no or few surgical complications - 6 to 12 months - but it could be much less. I'm being conservative. I did great but it was probably six months or more before I was truly '100%'. Frankly, this surgery will leave you with a few deficits no matter how good your surgeon or how rapid your recovery. Your balance won't be 100%, nor will your hearing (in most cases) and there are usually other small 'reminders' of your AN. I have a few. Nothing I can't ignore or work around and they're invisible to other people but even with my good recovery, I didn't end up exactly '100%'. If you understand going in, that, post-op, you'll have to adjust to a 'new normal' (for you, considering your AN and surgery), you'll be O.K. Many of us have gone through this and come out not only alive (the mortality rate is infinitesimal) but stronger in some areas.
I'm not sure if these are the exact answers you're seeking and others may have a different take on these questions, but these are my answers.
Please stay connected here because we understand your emotions, concerns and hopes. We've been where you are, today, and we want to help.
Jim