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Jill Marie

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Flying Solo Tomorrow
« on: February 16, 2009, 02:14:31 am »
No, I'm not flying a plane by myself tomorrow.  However, I feel like I am!  A childhood friend of mine moved to a town not far from me about a year ago.    She emailed me a few months ago and asked me to join her for lunch.  I couldn't make it for a few reasons but mostly because I haven't seen her since my surgery in 92.  I'm sure the lunch will go great and I'll be glad to see her but I know that people always react differently to seeing me for the first time.  I just wish that I was as excited to see her as I should be.  As for flying solo, I've become dependent on my husband to be by my side when I do things I'm not comfortable with.  It's not as though he's there every time as I have a full time job and do lots of things on my own but I sure wish he was going to be home when I head out tomorrow or there when I get back just encase I need the support.  Jill
Facial Nerve Neuroma removed 6/15/92 by Dr. Charles Mangham, Seattle Ear Clinic. Deaf/left ear, left eye doesn't water.

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2009, 02:24:04 am »
Go for it!  8)

We'll always be here if you need us.

Steve
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2009, 07:24:24 am »
Jill,

Have faith in you to be fine! Go and enjoy and put this on the backburner and have a fab time!

Phyl
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2009, 11:11:56 am »
Jill, you'll do great  ;D 

I'm confident your friend will be very excited to see you and the excitement will rub off.

Let us know how things go.

Jan
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2009, 11:48:15 am »
Thanks everyone, that's just what I needed, will take your words of wisdom with me.  Best go get ready for lunch!  Jill
Facial Nerve Neuroma removed 6/15/92 by Dr. Charles Mangham, Seattle Ear Clinic. Deaf/left ear, left eye doesn't water.

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2009, 01:37:24 pm »
Jill,

Even though your husband won't be at lunch with you, he'll still be with you in spirit (although he'd probably like some lunch too!).  The first time I had to do things after my surgery on my own, it was a little nerve-wracking, but I found that once I got that first time over with, it was all good after that.

Don't worry - and just enjoy a nice lunch with your friend!

Lori
Right 3cm AN diagnosed 1/2007.  Translab resection 2/20/07 by Dr. David Kaylie and Dr. Karl Hampf at Baptist Hospital in Nashville.  R side deafness, facial nerve paralysis.  Tarsorraphy and tear duct cauterization 5/2007.  BAHA implant 11/8/07. 7-12 nerve jump 9/26/08.

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2009, 04:01:19 pm »
Jill~
I guess it is past lunchtime, but I just read this...hope all went well.  Let us know!!

K
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #7 on: February 16, 2009, 10:56:26 pm »
Thanks for all your support, it really helped!  I tried telling myself yesterday that the lunch would go just fine but a little voice kept saying, "You know how some people react when they see you."  Kept trying to tell myself that it probably bothers me more then it bothers them.  I was bolstered by your posts and headed out with time to spare. I put in my sisters CD and put the pedal to the metal.  I was so relaxed that I would have been more than happy to cruise right on to the next state.   I googled the restaurant for directions, that was a mistake, they said that once I took the exit I would turn left then go 2.2 miles and would be there.  I continued to enjoy the drive, was a good 20 minutes a head of schedule so no worries.  When I arrived at 2.2 miles there was nothing but fields on both sides of me.  I turned the truck around and headed back to where the stores were.  I stopped at a gas station and asked for directions, turns out the restaurant was more like 2.2 blocks from where I turned.  While at the gas station I checked my cell phone encase my friend called.  There was a message but not from her, it was from the doctors office where I had my physical etc. last week, message was to call.  I'm now almost late for lunch and worried about why the doctor called.  Called the doctor office, closed for lunch!  I made it to the restaurant by 12:30, agreed upon time.  Sherrie was there waiting, we hugged, briefly explained trip, ordered lunch then talked tell 5:00.  Called the doctor office around 4 and they said they just wanted to let me know the test was fine couldn't tell me that in the message of course.  As you can tell we had a wonderful time or we wouldn't sat there for over 4 hours.   One small step for Jill, one big step for future visits with others!  Thanks again, Jill
Facial Nerve Neuroma removed 6/15/92 by Dr. Charles Mangham, Seattle Ear Clinic. Deaf/left ear, left eye doesn't water.

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #8 on: February 16, 2009, 11:03:54 pm »
Good for you Jill.  I see many more excursions (with better directions?) in your future.
Marci
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #9 on: February 17, 2009, 01:12:52 pm »
Yea!  Congrats on lunch and the good news from the doctor's office.. Here's to more outings in your future!

Regards,
Brian
Diagnosed 4/10/08 - 3cm Right AN
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #10 on: February 17, 2009, 01:22:45 pm »
I was pretty sure it would turn out well for you and I am delighted to have guessed correctly. Onward and upward.

Sara
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #11 on: February 17, 2009, 01:43:30 pm »
Jill,

First of all, my experience with google maps has been horrible too! Now I have my trusty GPS, who's name is Jill, by the way, and she gets me anywhere I need to go.  Good investment for those of us who have no sense of direction.

And I just knew you'd wind up having a great time!  Once you make it over that first big hurdle, it's a walk in the park!

Lori
Right 3cm AN diagnosed 1/2007.  Translab resection 2/20/07 by Dr. David Kaylie and Dr. Karl Hampf at Baptist Hospital in Nashville.  R side deafness, facial nerve paralysis.  Tarsorraphy and tear duct cauterization 5/2007.  BAHA implant 11/8/07. 7-12 nerve jump 9/26/08.

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #12 on: February 17, 2009, 01:44:17 pm »
Jill ~

Congratulations on your successful socializing escapade with an old friend over lunch and, of course, your 'clean bill of health' from your doctor.  You need to do this more often!  :)

Jim
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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #13 on: February 17, 2009, 02:19:22 pm »
Jill,

First of all, my experience with google maps has been horrible too! Now I have my trusty GPS, who's name is Jill, by the way, and she gets me anywhere I need to go.  Good investment for those of us who have no sense of direction.

And I just knew you'd wind up having a great time!  Once you make it over that first big hurdle, it's a walk in the park!

Lori

Jill?  I won't say what I've nicknamed mine.  It's not good in mixed company.  She has a sexy foreign accent, though.. ;)

Brian
Diagnosed 4/10/08 - 3cm Right AN
12hr retrosig 5/8/08 w/Drs Vrabec and Trask in Houston, Tx
Some facial paralysis post-op but most movement is back, some tinitus.  SSD on right.
Story documented here:  http://briansbrainbooger.blogspot.com/

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Jill Marie

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Re: Flying Solo Tomorrow
« Reply #14 on: February 17, 2009, 11:00:30 pm »
Thanks again for all the support!  In hindsight my fears seem silly now, but boy they weren't last weekend.  Will have to look into the GPS if, I mean, for when I go on more excursions.  Since the lunch ran long and I stopped at the store on the way home my husband was home when I finally got there and was really glad I had such a nice long visit.  He too recommends doing it more often.  I had to go to work early today as vacation replacement so of course I woke up 2 hours before I had to get up and couldn't quit thinking about all my friend and I talked about and never got back to sleep.  So, that's it for me, I'm off to dream land.  Jill
Facial Nerve Neuroma removed 6/15/92 by Dr. Charles Mangham, Seattle Ear Clinic. Deaf/left ear, left eye doesn't water.