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saralynn143

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Sometimes life is so sad
« on: March 22, 2009, 06:27:14 am »
Some of you may remember that my father-in-law passed away unexpectedly last October. It has been very hard on my mother-in-law who does not drive and was very dependent on him. She has since had a nasty case of shingles and just had surgery for spinal stenosis at the L3/4 and L4/5 levels.

Yesterday around noon, my brother-in-law and his family were involved in an automobile accident. I'm not sure of the details, but my niece thinks that a pickup hit another pickup, knocking it into their van. My sister-in-law and nieces have been released from the hospital, but my brother-in-law was killed upon impact.

My husband and I told his mother last evening. I think it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. Tony was a wonderful, gentle man and we will miss him terribly.

Please keep my mother-in-law, Ethel, Tony's wife Marilyn and daughters Julia and Sara, my husband Phil and his other brother John in your prayers.

Sara

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2009, 06:57:24 am »
Hello Sara,
 
What a terrible tragedy.  I was so saddened by your news.  We will absolutely keep Ethel, Marilyn, Julia, Sara, your husband Phil and his brother John, AND YOU, Sara, in our prayers.
 
Ernie
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2009, 11:28:57 am »
Very sad news, Sara. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Steve
8 mm left AN June 2007,  CK at Stanford Sept 2007.
Hearing lasted a while, but left side is deaf now.
Right side is weak too. Life is quiet.

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2009, 02:28:58 pm »
Sara,

I am so very sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my prayers.

Wendy
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #4 on: March 22, 2009, 02:35:37 pm »
Sara~
That is such a horrible thing - it seems like we are having more than our share of things to pray about here lately, BUT as we can see with Jim & Donnalynn, we must have some pretty powerful ones!  I will pray that the Lord will wrap His loving arms around you ALL during this horrible time.

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #5 on: March 22, 2009, 03:00:51 pm »
Oh, Sara.  I know there's just no right thing to say in a situation like this, but please know that I am so sorry.  What an awful thing for any family to have to go through.

I will definitely keep your family in my prayers.

Lori
Right 3cm AN diagnosed 1/2007.  Translab resection 2/20/07 by Dr. David Kaylie and Dr. Karl Hampf at Baptist Hospital in Nashville.  R side deafness, facial nerve paralysis.  Tarsorraphy and tear duct cauterization 5/2007.  BAHA implant 11/8/07. 7-12 nerve jump 9/26/08.

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #6 on: March 22, 2009, 03:19:47 pm »
Sara ~

My condolences on the loss of your brother-in-law.  An untimely death is always heartbreaking.  I'll be praying for solace for you and your family that are all affected by this terrible tragedy.

Jim
4.5 cm AN diagnosed 5/06.  Retrosigmoid surgery 6/06.  Follow-up FSR completed 10/06.  Tumor shrinkage & necrosis noted on last MRI.  Life is good. 

Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is.  The way we cope with it is what makes the difference.

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #7 on: March 22, 2009, 04:52:45 pm »
Saralynn,
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

Capt Deb
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #8 on: March 22, 2009, 05:27:05 pm »
Sara:  My heart goes out to you & your family.

Keep a peaceful heart,    Nancy
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #9 on: March 22, 2009, 05:40:47 pm »
My prayers go out to you and your family, Sara.
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Left ear 40% hearing loss 8/07.
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #10 on: March 22, 2009, 05:43:44 pm »
I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm praying that God will comfort you and your family as you go through this difficult time.

Priscilla
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #11 on: March 22, 2009, 06:44:01 pm »
My thoughts and prayers are also with you and yours......so sorry.

Anne Marie
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #12 on: March 22, 2009, 07:34:19 pm »
Sara,   I am sorry for such sad news about your family and the tragic loss of your brother-in-law.
My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your family.
Sue
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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #13 on: March 23, 2009, 06:05:48 am »
Oh Sara, That is sooooo sad. Words can not express how badly I feel for your family. May strength be with you and your family during this difficult time.
Big Hug Michelle  :'(
Retrosigmond surgery on June 4th, 2008 for an AN. 100% hearing loss and facial paralysis (was not prepared for facial paralysis). Size: 2.3 cm, 2.1 cm, 1.8 cm. some tumour remains along facial nerve. Pray for no regrowth. Misdiagnosed for 10 yrs.

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Re: Sometimes life is so sad
« Reply #14 on: March 23, 2009, 11:16:49 am »
Oh, Sara, that's such a tragedy.  My sincerest sympathies to you and your family.  Words can never express the anguish one feels at news like this, even if we don't know these people personally.  I am so terribly sorry.

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