Hi Boss,
First, there is no way to take up too much of anyone's time on here...we arrive when we want, leave when we want... if we're taking time on the forum, it's because we want to be here. So ask as many questions as you want.
The problem is...a lot of stuff varies depending on what might seem like minor details. My suggestion is to go to the doctor and ask (sorry StoneAxe). They will be able to answer based on the details of his particular tumor and their particular protocols.
My feeling...if someone is about the poke around inside the head of someone you care about...there is absolutely no such thing as a question that is too bold. If the doctor takes offense, find a different doctor. This ranks right up there with rocket science...
But to answer your question based on my experiences... your mileage may vary...
1. How long is the typical length of stay in intensive care unit, then in the hospital?
Grand opening and walking tour of my head on Tuesday ...napping on my couch on Saturday. One night in ICU, two in a step down ward (like ICU-lite), one night on regular ward.
2. Post op care at home, should I ask for a visiting nurse, will he go to a rehab place before he comes home?
Didn't need any specialized care... being feed and watered regularly was the biggest tasks, I had post op loss of facial function and did need some help putting the cream into my eye before taping it shut at night. This was mostly due to me have issues with eye stuff.. I get queasy watching someone put in contacts.. but can eat lunch while watching abdominal surgery on the Discovery channel... go figure.
3. Do you think it is too bold of me to ask the docs, what their success rate is and how many of these operations have they done? (he is seeing McKenna MEEI and Barker MGH).
As iterated above...if they get offended, get someone else..
http://www.anausa.org/questions_for_physicians.html pertains.
4. What are common ailments should I look for when he is home that would be of concern?
Ask in pre-op meeting, ask again when they discuss sending him home post op.
5. Side effects, they mentioned a thing called a CSF (?) leak!!! How would I know what to look for?
Ask just before they send him home.. when they start talking discharge, whip out your notebook where you have all these written down so you don't miss any.
6. How long does this surgery take?
Mine was a middle fossa approach and took about 9.5 hours... if you take something to read, take something that doesn't require long periods of concentration, you will be a bit distracted according to my wife.
7. Will he need any special medical equipment, wheelchair, or something to prop him up at night when sleeping?
I used a walker for the first few days at home due to balance issues, skipped the cane phase and went right to my most excellent imitation of a tipsy pirate (eye patch to keep temporarily non-closing eye from drying out so much), couldn't find a stuffed parrot to complete the look though- the medical supply house thought the request was odd, which I found a bit odd.
8. Do I have to wake him up through the night or if he falls asleep during the day?
I suppose you could wake him up in the middle of the night if you like cranky StoneAxe (the nurses in the hospital will more than fill the quota of middle of the night, middle of the great dream sleep interruptions, by the time he leaves there shouldn't be any reason for you to wake him up...again, ask leading up to discharge.
9. Should he be left alone at home, if I need to run to CVS for a prescription should I leave him alone?
Ask at discharge, there wasn't any reason I couldn't be left alone post op.
10. I can take time off from work, that's not a problem, I just thought someone out there might know how much time I should ask for off.
As my request, my wife took very minimal time off. Post op patients are very boring, we sleep and rest alot.
11. Wound care: will he have drains...should I have a nurse do whatever needs to be done?
There wasn't any special wound care, no drains, etc in my case... ask at discharge.
12. How long is the surgery... it's a translab procedure...
As noted above, mine was a different approach...middle fossa, 9.5 hours
Again, it might be that none of the answer above will apply in StoneAxe's case...it's very individual. Also, please visit the "Caregivers" section of the forum, folks there have walked in your shoes.
If you have more questions, ask away or just stop by to chat, vent, worry, and commiserate... we actually do understand.
..take care.. tim b