Keeping -
I didn't have radiation, so I can't give you my experience with it, but I did want to address your thoughts on "more problems" after radiation/surgery than before treatment.
I definitely agree with your point that a lot of AN patients who have "success" stories never return to the Forum on a long-term basis after treatment to update those of us who continue to participate. However, there are still a lot of us oldies around who have had "success" stories.
Prior to my surgery (retrosigmoid) my only symptom was diminished hearing and a feeling of fullness in my left (AN) ear and a balance issue that I didn't even notice; it came to light when my neurotologist tested me. Post op I had my "issues" but the only permanent one is SSD - which while definitely different from the diminished hearing I used to have - has been resolved to my satisfaction with a BAHA implant.
Others on the Forum may not seem as "lucky" as I am, but trust me - even those with lasting problems, are leading full lives. So IMO, "success" is a fairly subjective word. While some have had bigger "issues" than others, I don't think anyone here could be truly called a "non-success" story. And truth be told, I consider those who have been through much, much more than I have and come out with a positive attitude to be a bigger "success" than I'll ever be.
I'm confident that with the exception of those watching and waiting who never experience enough growth to cause big problems/symptoms, if we all chose to do nothing about our ANs it wouldn't be a good situation. The "success" stories would be fairly non-existent.
Regardless of whether you choose radiation or surgery, it's a wise decision to go from watching and waiting to taking action when you start to experience an increase in symptoms - like your deteriorating hearing. Making your treatment decision is sometimes the hardest part of your AN journey, but I am confident you will made the choice that is best for you. Trust me, you'll get through this
Best,
Jan