Hi TxNN ...
Kate's list is very helpful and pretty much covers all the bases. I just recently met with the neurosurgeon who would be assisting, so I had already asked Kate's list of questions to the neurotologist (and had also gone thru this many yrs back when first diagnosed). I did select a few questions that I also asked the neurosurgeon, but ended up getting more information from what he told me than what I asked him ... so you might want to inquire as to how many ANs he's assisted/over what period of time; get him to tell you about the hospital you will be at - my neurosurg talked about what a fine facility it was, how they've provided all the high-end equipment they've needed and asked for over the years; he mentioned that the surgical support staff and post-op were very dedicated and conscientious.
I found my neurosurgeon to be much more focused on surgery being the [very] best option so his information was very one-sided. My take on that is that your neurotologist is the one who can more fairly present the benefits/risks of surg vs. rad. I therefore did not expect a totally impartial meeting with the neurosurg and that was fine.
Good luck!