Hi Cheryl and welcome. Glad you found us and glad to hear that the forums are becoming a terrific resource for you.
Like you and Cathy (DogLover), mine was also, at time of diagnosis, 9mm deep in the IAC with just a hint poking out at the CP Angle Region. I opted for radio-surgery (radiation) for mine, with the key point of my radio research being... was there enough room in the IAC for the growth to swell, which can occur during post-radiation. My docs told me yes... and now, over 3 yrs later (post-radio), the AN is now a "done deal".
When I was researching surgical and radio treatment options, my brain surgeon, when noting to her about Mid-Fossa, actually cringed when she heard me say it. Now, it has worked out for many... and has not. I have to also agree with you about the NE Region "poo-pooing" Mid-Fossa surgical approach and I have no clue why. I did not ask my dr to elaborate on her attitude about it, since our conversation then shifted to radio-treatments.
The teams you are seeing in NYC are very reputable and you are doing everything right... we are here to help in any way that we can and again, send you "Welcome" to the forums.
Hang tough!
Phyl