Thanks for all the reply! I am in deep depression now. I don't know what I will go through and what the life will be after the treatment. How can I forget it even for 1 minute? Do you have any complications after the surgery? How long do you feel you are ready for a baby? How do you manage your mood, how to be positive? I woke up many times at night and I cannot go to sleep after 5am though I feel so tired during the day.
-Mini
Dealing with an AN is a life-changing experience for everyone. Feeling overwhelmed and anxious is normal, though if it's bad enough that you can't manage it on your own you may benefit from talking to a therapist to help figure out how to manage. Of course you can't forget about the bugger right now. It's all new and it takes a long time to process everything you're being told.
The questions you ask are good ones, but everyone's answer will be different. It was probably about a year post-op when I felt ready for another baby (I was 2 year post-op when I got pregnant), but I was dealing with a lot more than just the AN for that first year. My father was diagnosed with leukemia just a few weeks after my surgery and he died a few months later, which was much more devastating to me than my AN journey. So that skewed everything.
I had no complications post-op. In fact, the surgeons where ecstatic with how quickly I recovered. By 6 weeks post-op I was taking care of my two young sons (4 and 1.5 years at the time) all day by myself. Now, at 3+ years post-op, my AN is simply not part of my day-to-day life. Other than sometimes asking my kids to repeat themselves because I couldn't hear them, I rarely think about it. That certainly wasn't true 3 and 4 years ago.
You will get through this. But don't be afraid to ask for help and support. Nobody can do this alone.
Katie
