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ombrerose4

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Another brother dying
« on: January 22, 2011, 09:40:07 am »
My 58 year old brother suffered a massive heart attack two days ago. It is not looking good. He is on a respirator and now has a fever of 104. This is so hard on my father who is 82. He is in denial, which I know is normal. I lost another brother 7 years ago and my mom 3 years ago. I am strong, but I don't know how much more my dad can handle. On way to hospital now.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2011, 11:09:40 am »
I am so sorry to hear about your brother and your Dad.  It is hard to see our parents  pain when a child is suffering.  Please accept my prayers for you and your family as you all go through this tragedy.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #2 on: January 22, 2011, 03:27:44 pm »
Lauren ~

I was saddened to learn that your brother suffered a massive heart attack and is struggling while your elderly father is in denial.  It would appear that you are in the middle, which is a stressful place to be.  Trying to see your brother through this crisis while keeping your father on track and having to submerge your own fears and concerns in order to support others.  I'll keep your brother, father and of course, you in my prayers. 

Jim
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #3 on: January 22, 2011, 03:37:13 pm »
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #4 on: January 22, 2011, 06:37:37 pm »
I'm very sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #5 on: January 22, 2011, 10:17:09 pm »
Lauren,
Prayers to you and your family.  Sounds like you will need to be the strong one for everyone.  Take care of yourself as well.  I will continue to pray and keep you in my thoughts.
God Bless,
Susan
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #6 on: January 22, 2011, 10:38:53 pm »
Hi Lauren,

I've not mentioned this yet as there's been so much upset in regard to family on the forum lately, but my heart is with you all. My Dad was taken to the ICU Tues Jan 11 by ambulance. He suffered a spontaneous pneumothorax and the Dr told my Mom to call us kids. The longest 2.5 hr drive of my life.

My Dad survived, but he's still in hospital. He still in a bad place and talking to my Mom today has been a bad day for him. I reached the breaking point tonight for a bit..poor Mom...but I'm better now...I think...

I wish you strength as you make your way through this journey in your life...

Nikki
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #7 on: January 22, 2011, 11:13:59 pm »
Thank you everyone for all your good wishes. There's been no change in my brother's condition, still critical. Fighting exhaustion and my headaches so I can be there for everyone. Hopefully I will sleep better tonight and tomorrow will be a better day for my brother.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #8 on: January 23, 2011, 10:52:01 am »
Sorry to hear...Hope things get better soon.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #9 on: January 23, 2011, 02:46:55 pm »
My prayers for you and your family
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #10 on: January 23, 2011, 07:00:35 pm »
When it rains, it pours.  Sounds like your family has been though a lot.  Many prayers to you and your family.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #11 on: January 23, 2011, 07:13:45 pm »
Lauren and Nikki,
   My thoughts and prayers are with you both and your families. Try to take care of yourselves during this turmoil in your families.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #12 on: January 23, 2011, 08:24:06 pm »
Nikki,

All we can do is to take one day at a time. It's so hard to do because our minds are constantly saying-what if, how, why..... We need to stay strong, get our rest and eat well. so we can be there for our families. I know what you are going through and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #13 on: January 24, 2011, 09:33:02 am »
Lauren,

I just signed on and saw this post.  I know you are a strong person and hope that your brother is strong too and will pull through.  Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Best wishes,
Wendy
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Re: Another brother dying
« Reply #14 on: January 24, 2011, 12:37:32 pm »
Lauren and Nikki,

Oh I am so sadden to read this.  Please take care of yourselves.  You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

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